Tuesday, November 10, 2020
Not Locked in Fear, Liberated by His Spirit!
Monday, August 31, 2020
Breakfast for Jesus
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My husband’s early morning prayer meeting at our home brought one young man to our door. Intense spiritual warfare threatened him and his family. While my husband prayed with him downstairs, I prayed for them upstairs.
As I interceded, the Holy Spirit prompted me to fix them breakfast. A sudden awareness flashed across my mind that the breakfast I would prepare was first and foremost for Jesus, not for the two men who knelt by our sofa.
Never had I experienced more clarity concerning the truth of Colossians 3:23: “Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men” (NASB).
So many times I’d served others with abandon, but
when it came to my husband, I grumbled and hesitated. I pushed from the floor
with joy as I prepared and served eggs, sausage, and smoothies to “Jesus” that
quiet Saturday morning.
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Monday, August 24, 2020
Home Alone? A Wife Grows Up During COVID
I admit it, I was
spoiled. An introvert, I’d grown content after 14 years of working at home alone
as a freelance writer, author, and creative writing tutor. I had my system down.
Carrot juice in hand (yeah, no coffee for this writer gal), I’d shuffle off to
my separate office after I kissed hubby Chuck, sending him off and out of the
house to counsel clients at his group office.
Then COVID-19 hit and
sent the proverbial best-laid plans of mice and men scurrying out the door, too.
Home alone quickly morphed into two at home when Chuck started conducting
teletherapy at home fulltime. Sacrificial wife that I am, I gave up my office
and set up a card table in the living room for the laptop while Chuck used the
desktop for sessions in a quiet, confidential space where the door could be
closed.
And thus, it was. A
closed door to my space. The one I had taken for granted yet soon
realized I cherished.
Still, I rallied my spirit
around a new plan with resolve to make the best of things, which meant helping
Chuck set up a new workspace with books and other resources carted from his
group office. It required megadoses of patience as I guided him through the
technological challenges of teletherapy, sometimes at the most inopportune
moments, while I also mastered Zoom for student sessions. A learning curve for
both of us, but since I’d learned a few things from my techy kids over the
years, I was able to assist. Thankfully. Though I didn’t always view it with
gratitude. Never mind that my grown children had patiently tutored me multiple
times as I learned how to use Word processing, navigate the web, and diagnose
computer issues.
Enter negative and sinful
behavior patterns that I knew existed, but I’d never fully dealt with. Under
the careful tutelage of the Holy Spirit, I detected areas, one by one, that
needed attention. For years, Chuck had insisted that those we discipled needed
some practical way to measure growth. The professional counselor speaking,
after all. Why not try a measurement system myself? So, I asked Chuck to join
me in prayer as I sought the Lord.
Call it readiness,
disgust with myself, desperation, old age (well, older), or all the above, but
I seemed ripe for some solid spiritual formation. What emerged was a journaling
exercise that I’m still doing. I’m now on my third refining area with a prayer,
a serious prayer, to become more like my Jesus, my Savior and Lord, but also my
gentle, humble Teacher.
The specific daily journaling
over a three-week period (I advise at least that amount of time) on one growth
area has helped me see how well I’m doing listening, trusting, and obeying my
Teacher. A brief note for each day indicates the trigger situation and/or
person and my response to the trigger, whether good or bad. The exercise
provides its own form of accountability, but I’ve also alerted my special women
prayer warriors to lift me up to the Throne as I work with the Holy Spirit in
each area.
Psalm 46:10, “Be still
and know that I am God” has powered me through many pivotal choice moments when
the scales could tip either way (obey or disobey). The reminder brings pause, a
spiritual breather, if not a physical and emotional one as well. God assures me
in that moment that I can trust Him even when things seem out of control for
this obsessive-compulsive-prone gal. Rather than react—blurt out whatever’s in
my head—I grow quiet, even if only for a few moments to consider a godly
response.
The happy news—Chuck says
I’m making progress in my journaled areas! Since we are pretty much together
24/7, his is the feedback I desire the most. After all, we are the most real
with the people we live with. My love and respect toward my husband are the
true indicators of how well I really love and respect my Lord. That’s painful
to hear, but so necessary for growth. I’m learning in a deeper way that
submitting to the discipline of the Lord really does produce the peaceful fruit
of right living, especially with the one closest to me, my spouse.
Home alone? Yeah, nice,
has its perks. But I think I’m finally growing up, which is the fulfillment of
a lifelong dream. And having extra laundry and yard help isn’t a bad perk,
either.
Thursday, July 9, 2020
Where are the Sounds of Children?
On a neighborhood mid-morning walk, it dawned on me that other than cheery birds carrying on, it was all too quiet. Normally, I would appreciate the stillness. Time to refresh and reflect.
But on that day, I just got sad. Where were the sounds of children playing in their back yards?
I suppose in part that's why my two hours at my daughter's house that afternoon was so special--their back yard was alive with kid activity (with neighbor kids included)! Bikes flying over homemade ramps. A game of HORSE. "I Spy" while swinging in hammocks. One child's intrigue with the black accordion drain pipe led to three more investigating. The thrill of discovering that pipe attached to the gutter, then following the pipe buried underground to its outlet in the yard. A cup of chai on the stone ledge while chatting with my daughter.
The rest of the block was quiet.
Parents afraid to let kids outside?
Kids in front of computer or cell phone screens?
Kids in daycare?
Guess I am getting old (along with neighbor friends, I spent the entire summer with screen door slapping, I'm sure to my mother's chagrin), but oh, the happy banter, even the unhappy banter, of childhood play. A shared activity, a shared conflict. Learning to team create (great stuff out of castoffs, rocks, sand, bushes), relate, to resolve problems, to move on.
And at the end of the day, to fall into bed richly exhausted with the moon peeking in through a starlit window.
As I drove home, I basked in the memory of the simple pleasures playing outside with kids provides. It took me back to my childhood.
That night as I tucked the sheet under my chin, I smiled at the moon shining through my window and fell into a deep sleep.
Wednesday, May 13, 2020
God's Creative Comfort
Monday, May 4, 2020
Celebrate Mom!
Friday, April 10, 2020
In the Garden with Mary
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Saturday, March 21, 2020
A Good God?
In the midst of the horrific swell, God whispers His care. "Be still, Eileen, just be still. You are under my wings, sheltered as a hen shelters her chicks from harm."
In this knowledge, I choose to dwell, for as a friend noted on Facebook: "It's a win-win situation. If I don't get COVID-19, I win; if I do get it and die, I'm ushered into the presence of my Savior for all eternity."
Yet what of those who do not know Him personally, who have not cried out to Him for salvation in the midst of their lostness? With Isaiah, with Paul, with so many other faithful servants of the ages, I must be faithful to boldly share the love of Jesus.
It may not be with words at first, for as I noticed while reading neighbor posts on "Nextdoor Neighbor" online forum, some are not tolerating quips about prayer and trust in God. "How can I believe in a benevolent God?" one person challenges. Another retorts: "Trust in God. Yeah, right!" The cynicism drips off the page. And I cringe at Satan's age-old lie: "God is not good."
The question that bubbles to the surface throughout history is "How can a good God allow suffering?"
So we are sent back into our cocoons for the pondering. While I don't presume to fathom the deep mysterious workings of God, I do know the inspired, inerrant, infallible Scriptures speak truth, whether I choose to believe it or not. But it will be to my favor and my ultimate good if I do. And that truth is that God is good, but man is not.
With Eve's first gullible latch onto Satan's lie, sin entered the world. So did sickness, sorrow, and death. The perfect world God created fell under a sad and terrifying curse that can only be redeemed by His perfect Son, the Lord Jesus Christ.
God is the remedy we seek, though the present world system, the depraved flesh, and the devil blind our eyes to Him.
But into our profound darkness, God speaks, "Let there be light!" The light of His invisible attributes revealed in creation, His written Word, and the Living Word--Jesus Christ--shines into our dismal selves through His Holy Spirit, we who sit in darkness and the shadow of death, and guides us onto the path of peace, so Luke notes in chapter 1:78-79.
This is our only Hope, the blessed Sunrise from on High, who lifts our faces heavenward as we live through and in a still cursed world.
For some, hearing these words is like breathing in a sweet aroma, readily received; for others these words are the aroma of death. For the latter, I would hope that the gospel in action--"For God so loved that He gave . . . . " would connect with the giving actions of their believing neighbors, folks who deliver groceries to doorsteps, send cards, check on neighbors via FB, email, phone calls, and video chats. Who show they care more than merely say they do, because as God's children they imitate their Father. They give!
That's what love does in crisis and out of crisis. Love gives, for God is love. We who know and love God can't help but love others. His goodness flows through our veins, and if for no other reason than that, I'm assured that indeed God is good.
Thursday, February 6, 2020
Romance from the Song of Solomon
Wednesday, January 29, 2020
You Can't Legislate Morality?
Especially given the first "Thou shalt not" dating back to the beginning of time with Adam and Eve (Genesis 2:17).
Was not God the first legislator of morality?
According to Merriam-Webster, "to legislate" simply means "to make or enact laws."
Which is exactly what God did in delivering the Ten Commandments to Moses who then delivered them to the children of Israel (Exodus 20:2-17, Deuteronomy 5:6-21).
The very act of law-making and enforcing comes from God Himself, which is exactly why our sin nature and Satan so vehemently oppose laws that promote righteousness.
Thus all the theft, murder, petty infractions, and everything in-between that flies in the face of God's righteous standards for individuals who in turn comprise a society.
I suspect when folks toss out the phrase, "you can't legislate morality," what they are really saying is, "you can't change a person's heart."
True, only God can do that, and even He doesn't force a person to comply. He states the command along with the consequence and allows, even gifts the person with free will to choose to obey or disobey.
Parents, operating under the authority of God, are commissioned to legislate morality to their children. They hope against hope that their kids' outward conformity indicates a changed heart, but there are no guarantees that rebellion doesn't boil under the surface waiting to erupt when least expected. Even the Perfect Parent created kids that rebelled. Thus, the reason we entertain this discussion about legislating morality.
My husband and I felt this tension while in the active child-rearing years. While some children are more compliant than others, there's still that nagging thought that these kids are simply obeying because they have to, not because they really want to. Simply because they know they'll get punished if they don't toe the line.
But it's a step. Godly discipline teaches cause and effect, reward and retribution. When practiced consistently early in a child's life, it can lead to heart change, to a respect for authority. No promises, but great expectations. Because this is the system ordained by God, beginning in the family structure, and having vast ramifications for society at large.
So, legislate morality?
Seems a no-brainer to me. Otherwise, as in the days of the Judges, every man will do what is right in his own eyes.
And we know where that's getting us in our culture. If there are no God-given absolutes for morality, then anything goes!
God help us. He's the only one who can. May we who know Him serve as faithful instruments in His hands for promoting and encouraging, yes, even legislating morality.
Unless of course, we sanction someone killing another, even someone we love, even the most vulnerable among us, or stealing our property.
I don't think so. Nor do I think you sanction such horror.
Perhaps a review of the Ten Commandments would be a good, no a GREAT thing right about now. But tell that to the ACLU and watch the fur fly! Need I say again that Satan hates the Ten Commandments. Why? Because He hates the Law-giver.
God's righteous ones via the Cross of Christ stand for what is good and holy and true and pure. Like David of old writing in the psalms, God's law is sweeter than honey. We know that what God mandates is for our good that we might live in freedom and contentment, loving and rejoicing in Him all the days of our lives and on into eternity!
May I encourage you, dear reader? Spend some time meditating on the Ten Commandments. Ask the Lord to convict you of any that you need to work on with His help. I know I need to work on a few. After all, legislating morality starts with me. My heart. It starts with one person. Who then models that for another. And on it goes. Be that one!
Ten Commandments list
- You shall have no other gods before Me.
- You shall make no idols.
- You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain.
- Keep the Sabbath day holy.
- Honor your father and your mother.
- You shall not murder.
- You shall not commit adultery.
- You shall not steal.
- You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
- You shall not covet.
Wednesday, January 15, 2020
Our French Adventure!
Bonjour!
With family spread all over the world, my husband and I have no lack of places to visit!
This year we traveled to France to spend time with our middle daughter and family currently living in a small French town cradled by the magnificent, snow-capped mountains of the southern alps. My camera shot simply does not do justice to the pristine splendor of these beauties. However, the actual visual image while standing before them is a snapshot in my mind I will not soon forget.
Among our touring spots was Conflans, a village nestled in the mountains, and dating back to the 1500s. The building below is the Catholic Church in the center of the village with houses grouped around. I enjoyed ambling along the meticulously laid cobblestone streets. The pic below is also taken at Conflans as the sun set.
Sledding at a nearby ski resort was a highlight for me! I think I love this activity about as much as I enjoy bobbing in ocean waves.
A stroll through town on a mother-daughter date with a stop at a crepe shop proved an enjoyable and meaningful way to experience a bit of French culture/language and catch up on each other's lives.
A tour of a cheese factory included a walk through what felt like a dungeon, cold and smelly, with aging molds of shelved cheese. A robot worked 24/7 to lift, flip, and dip each huge hunk of cheese (representing about 100 gallons of milk) in salt water, then return to the shelf. Yummy samples of summer cheese followed the tour. See pic below.
Time with family enjoying another culture is always the best treat of all! We are so thankful for our fun and meaningful time with our kids/grandkids, making more good memories to draw upon until we see each other again.
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